Porn has lied to you about sex and Relationships
The problem with porn's shallow perspective is that relationships are not built on sex, but on commitment, caring and mutual trust.
In that context, like fire in the fireplace, sex is wonderful. Being with someone who loves and accepts you, someone who is reliable, has a sense of humor and has interests beyond your sexuality, and a willingness to learn from the other are keys to a happy relationship.
In short, they build their relationships on their values, which makes them stronger and more fulfilling than if it involved sexual activities. It's also better for people to know where they stand and to talk to each other about it. After all, being comfortable talking about what matters isn't easy.
The thing is, sex is still important for a relationship to grow and flourish. But there may be an additional benefit from masturbation. Or even when both partners are having trouble having orgasms and making love, masturbation can help a couple get back into a more normal rhythm, which helps keep relationships healthy. On the topic of masturbation, here's an interesting bit of research on this issue.
When I was young, my parents would regularly masturbate with me. They would use topless plastic dildos or silk sheets and play with candles. My dad used to let me do this with him and I would come clean, as well. Sometimes we'd masturbate and I would come clean after he did it, too. As an adult, there is no way I could ever stop talking about sex in my life.
When that sexual activity ceases to bring pleasure, and instead turns into a chore, I find it easy. When you end your sexual routine, it frees your mind. It helps you focus on something else, rather than focusing on your partner. For example, in our couples program, we make a point every day to talk about how much we had fun in the bedroom, and to help us figure out how the rest of our lives are going to go. So, if you want a great time in bed again, start by talking to your partner, and then work together to try new things in the bedroom, for instance, trying something new in bed or getting down to business in different positions. If you're having trouble enjoying sex, consider seeing a psychologist to help you figure out where your sexual problems originate.
It used to be thought that porn created a false dichotomy between men and women. That porn showed men as strong, tough, powerful and independent, while showing women as passive, weaker, submissive and dependent. That was a very narrow, sexist viewpoint. Today, people do all kinds of research to confirm these ideas, but there seems to be some sort of myth attached to them. This myth says that porn shows a woman as weak, helpless and fragile, and doesn't show a man as strong, strong, independent, able to take charge and take action. Of course, that is ridiculous, because sex does not only involve a lot of movement and muscle work, it involves lots of communication with your partner after sex as well, so when one person is at the top, the others have to try to follow.
So, in addition to making sure that you are getting the most out of sex, it might be helpful to be having intercourse right after. We are currently researching ways to make sex pleasurable (and less painful) right after, so that you can experience it more fully and enjoy it for longer.
Porn has made the world a bad place for many people across the globe. Some people have been harmed directly from watching porn, some people are afraid that their family members will find out, and many children suffer more than they have to deal with, due to the fact that parents were exposed to porn, often through watching porn. Many people have become addicted to porn and as such, find themselves unable to move on from it. Others become depressed over it and avoid their families or friends, who they fear will find out. Overcome addiction may be caused by lack of emotional support or psychological disorders that interfere with their own mental health and cause them to binge watch porn.
In terms of our government, it is a shame that our political system is falling apart. There are numerous organizations dedicated to fighting against addiction. Our governments should pay special attention to this problem and provide financial help for families whose loved ones are addicted. With money available and everyone's attention focused on ending it, I am convinced that it will happen soon!